Last night, in the dark now very weedless cemetery I noticed something I do that most people would probably proclaim odd.....I talk to the umm.....residents, inhabitants, deceased or whatever you call them. I was on my knees in the pitch dark with a tiny flashlight picking up flowers around tombstones so my husband could weed eat and I realized I was having this conversation.
Hello John and dutiful wife and loving mother Anna. Did you realize, John, that you have been dead for umm... 1874, now it 2008 umm, like 134 years. Oh Anna, I see you died much earlier, you were only....umm....add, subtract...do more mathematical crap, 28 when you died. Oh and these two small headstones with babies names on them...they were born when Anna would have been 19 and crap I suck at math, 23 years old. How sad you must have been to lose 2 babies. I wonder if you had any children that lived? I wonder if 100 years ago there were grandchildren and your adult children standing here, putting flowers on your headstone and missing you? Did you die trying to add to your family or was it one of those things that happened back then when a bad cold could kill you if you weren't careful? Here are your flowers back. Well hello Amos and loving wife Sarah. Wow Amos you outlived Sarah by crap again add, subtract, etc. 30 years. Oh Amos I see now, you have another wife buried beside you....also named Sara but spelled different. She was( note to self: bring a calculator if you are going to talk to dead people) 15 when the first Sarah died so you must have married her later . I see that Sara number 2 outlived you by quite a few years. I wonder if after you died she ever dated, had an affair or if she just stayed at the farm for 25 years and fed chickens. I see that beside your tombstones there are buried rocks with no stones on them. Would those be children of yours and one of the Sarah/Sara's? Did one, or both of your wives have children that you buried here yourself?
While I have all of your attention, listen up John and Amos, we have stuff today that you never would have believed could be possible. When we want to be cool we just hit a switch and it turns on a machine that cools the air in our homes as cool as we want it. When we want new clothes, or groceries we just go to a store and buy them. When I want to know what is going on anywhere in the entire world I just turn on this box in my house we call television. It can show me the news from anywhere. Someone can be standing in China talking and I can watch it as it happens from my very cool home. When I want to go to town I jump in my car, turn on the air conditioning, radio and go. No horses, no wagons and I can get there fast....and back fast. There are so many things you would never have dreamed of but I have a question for you; what was it like when you had to rely on each other. When you worked hard together to make a life for yourself and your family. What was it like when you all set together on the porch in the evenings and just talked to each other? When being ill meant the neighbors fed your family and helped with your work and your neighbors knew if they were ill you would do that same? What were those days like John and Amos and how can I get just a little of that back?